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Best Budgeting Strategies for Midsize Families

Just like your kids' rooms, managing money can get messy.

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By Geoff Williams

If you're part of a family of four, you're nothing exceptional -- statistically speaking, that is.

According to the federal government's National Health Statistics Reports, two children (actually, 2.1) is the average number of kids in a household. That the average isn't higher may well be because of all the challenges put forth to married couples with children.

After all, two incomes are considered ideal for raising a family, and it's expensive to raise children. According to the U.S. Department of Agriculture, the costs come to $241,080 per child, and while the numbers for the second or third kid may go down due to hand-me-downs, they won't go down a lot. Daycare centers, for instance, don't charge less for the second or third child.

In fact, according to a study released this month, "The American Dream 2.0" from LearnVest and Chase Blueprint, which took the opinions of 1,223 men and women between the ages of 25 and 54, 51 percent of American consumers feel it's too expensive to raise children these days, and 37 percent have delayed having kids because of their financial situation.

So if you're part of a family with two adults and multiple kids, and you're looking for better ways to budget, here are a few suggestions.

Prioritize. Everyone prioritizes when budgeting, but it becomes more crucial as you add more family members. Clint Haynes, a financial adviser in Kansas City, Mo., who works with many middle-class families, says that after your main monthly expenses, like mortgage or rent and utilities, your top priority should be planning for the future. He suggests starting an emergency savings account that can ideally carry the family for three to six months. After that, he says you should budget for retirement, and then, if you can, save for your children's college.

"If you could put 4 to 5 percent of your annual income into a 529 plan, that would be ideal," says Haynes, adding that this isn't realistic for some middle-class families, especially if they're already struggling to fund an emergency saving account and a Roth IRA or 401(k).

Plan for the worst. Somewhere in your financial prioritizing should also be a life insurance payment in case the unthinkable happens. "Term insurance is what most people need," Haynes says. "That's a life insurance policy that expires over a set period of time, usually 20 to 30 years." He adds that generally, you'll want enough to cover five to 10 times your annual salary.

Adam Torkildson, a 30-year-old senior public relations associate in American Fork, Utah, has term insurance. "We got just enough that if I die, all our mortgages and bills will be paid off, and my wife would own our main property, as well as our rental property in Kansas, free and clear," says Torkildson, who makes $75,000 a year. He and his wife, Adrienne, have a six-year-old son and two-year-old daughter.

Communicate about money or designate one person to manage it. Managing money is stressful enough when you're doing it alone, but it's worse if you and your partner disagree on spending priorities. In fact, a 2009 study by Utah State University found that couples who bicker about their spending strategies once a week are more than 30 percent more likely to divorce than couples who reported arguing over finances a few times a month.

Some couples avoid financial dispute by agreeing that one person in the relationship will manage the money. "In my case, that's my wife," says Garrett Robinson, 27, an author in Sunland, Calif., a suburb north of Los Angeles.
"She handles all of our finances. My income goes straight into her bank account, and I can't touch it. She's the one who decides what we spend things on."

Between the two of them, Robinson says, they make about $60,000 to support themselves and their son and daughter, who are 2 and 3. Robinson's wife, Meghan, 34, runs a daycare from their house, so she can still be a stay-at-home mother while taking on what probably, at times, feels like the role of a full-time banker.

The Robinsons split a two-story house with another couple. "The house costs $2,000 in rent, and right now, we're paying $1,100. But they're moving out in November, and from then on, we'll have the full $2,000 in rent," Robinson says.

Each month, he and his wife also pay $300 for their 3-year-old daughter's preschool, $250 for their family-friendly SUV and put $500 toward paying off their credit card debt.

Plan meals. Look at it this way: If you have two children and everyone eats three square meals a day, whether at home or work or school, you have 21 meals, or 84 servings of food, to think about every week. If you don't budget for food with a big family, overspending may hurt everyone far more than overeating.

And the older your kids get, the harder it is to keep the food budget under control, says Anna Peterson, a 52-year-old part-time, self-employed mental health counselor in Frederick, Md.

"Our biggest problem staying on budget is eating out," Peterson says. "It's easy and enjoyable to eat out. No one has to go shopping, cook or clean up."

But Peterson recognizes that the convenience comes with a price. "I can cook spaghetti with meatballs, bread and salad for a family of five for the cost of one meal at Olive Garden," she says. "Eating steaks out for a family of five can be more than $150. A pot roast can feed us deliciously for $30."

She and her husband, Mike, a railroad welder, have three children: a 22-year-old son and two daughters, 17 and 14. The Petersons' combined income is slightly over $200,000, and their house, student loans and two of their three car payments are paid off. The third car still has another 18 months to go, with a monthly payment of $450.

From a bystander's point of view, the Petersons seem to be doing well financially, but Mike is 59, and "we have not saved well for retirement," Anna says. "We will have Railroad Retirement, which is [a retirement program that's] higher than Social Security, but not enough for retirement, according to our financial planner."

This is why Anna Peterson is constantly reevaluating what the family spends money on. She says their second child had three-quarters of her first year at community college paid for through merit scholarships after they urged her to apply. "We wish we had encouraged our oldest child to look into scholarships more," Peterson says.

And with movies, the family now just rents them instead of buying. "How many movies are really re-watched?" asks Peterson, who adds that she also now goes to the library instead of the book store. "Little things add up."


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alfredschrader

Criagermt: Good but never cancel your internet. Your computer can save you thousands.
To start with, most people simply go foodshopping and have no plan at all. That will turn your shopping cart into a blackhole for money.
Go online and bring up the weekly ad for your store - for a sample ad go to winndixie.com
See what's in season and on sale: For example this week in my area it's canned goods, sweet potatoes, pork spare ribs. Then create you meal menus around these seasonal products. In most cases this will cut your grocery bill in half.
A serving of anything is 4 ounces. If you make more than this you will have left overs. Most left overs end up in the trash taking your money with it.

October 28 2013 at 6:55 AM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
betty_brock

Obama care is a train wreck already.

I hear that Dem train comin. It's rollin round the bend.
Ain't seen such disaster since I don't know when.
"Obamacare will save us", now that was just a lie.
When Dems find out their ousted, they'll hang their heads and cry.

LOOK OUT DEM TRAIN..................SCREECH...............CRASH.

October 27 2013 at 10:00 PM Report abuse -1 rate up rate down Reply
mine

1. Don't have more kids than you can support.
2. Don't have more kids than you can support.
3. Don't have more kids than you can support.
Follow the first 3 rules and life will be easier on you.
4. Don't have cable TV if you can't afford it.
5. Don't have internet if you can't afford it.
6. Don't buy a new car if you can't afford it.
If you are under 40 don't believe the first 6 rules. You know they don't apply to you as you know you deserve everything whether you earn it or not.

October 27 2013 at 6:45 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
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betty_brock

Don't tell us liberals that. We don't want to hear it.

October 27 2013 at 9:53 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
NoOneHere2

the best way is to Vote ALL Republicans out of office

October 27 2013 at 9:10 AM Report abuse -3 rate up rate down Reply
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tasmit99jj

if I could reach you from here...I would slap you upside the head

October 27 2013 at 6:44 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
rforeverfree

Or...don't marry, have as many children as you can and let the married working families support you through welfare. Works for millions.

October 27 2013 at 6:37 AM Report abuse +2 rate up rate down Reply
kdnjsea2

What a BS article, they make $4000, a week pay $1000 a month in rent and have no money? what the heck are the doing with the other $15000? I know thats before taxes but come on, first of all who makes that and doesn't own thier own home? Between mortage intrest and real estate tax, deductions for the 3 kids, colledge tax credit $2500 for each kid, these have to be the dumbest people in the world

October 26 2013 at 9:58 PM Report abuse +1 rate up rate down Reply
mercuriojoe

Read my book, "The Calendar Budget" it will change the way you manage money forever,

October 26 2013 at 7:16 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
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betty_brock

Please send it to Washington.

October 26 2013 at 9:05 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply
scottee

what are the best budgeting strategies for Washington?

October 26 2013 at 4:40 PM Report abuse rate up rate down Reply