I read your informative article about paying down credit card debt and felt somewhat hopeful. I'm in a similar bind. I've built up considerable credit card debt, but in my mind I rationalized it by knowing that eventually I will come into some money when my father and my employer die (in both their wills -- boss is 90 years old) and I can use that money to pay down the debt. Well, no one is dying and I'm getting scared. I make a good salary but it's not covering my debts and expenses. I need to do something but I don't know what. I know there are debt consolidation companies but I don't know if that's the right way to go. I've heard they are no better than filing for bankruptcy. Any help you can give, would be greatly appreciated.
Your situation is troubling from both a practical and philosophical perspective. First there's no guarantee you'll get the promised inheritances. The funds you're counting on may be exhausted by the time your potential benefactors die, as end-of-life health care is outrageously expensive. One government study shows 30% of Medicare spending goes to medical treatment for beneficiaries in the last year of life.
The money could also be diminished by fluctuations in the stock market or by terrible investment advisers (think Bernie Madoff). Moreover, your father and boss could realize you're gaming their departure, and in a pique, choose to leave their money to charity instead. Or they might meet that special someone who quickly spends it -- or diverts it away from you. (Oil tycoon Howard Marshall II was 89 when he married the 26-year-old Anna Nicole Smith.)
Most crucial of all: How will you wisely manage an inheritance later when you're not on top of your own finances now? Without smart planning skills, it's pretty easy to imagine that you'll pay off your credit cards when the influx of cash arrives, then quickly run them up again.
The desire to relinquish control of your financial life -- to a family member, inheritance or a debt consolidator -- indicates a belief system that says: "I'm helpless; I will hope to be rescued." Sadly, the predatory nature of most financial services (and, frankly, some family members) means you are likely to be victimized over and over under the guise of "help."
The other possibility is that you are a smart, well-adjusted, educated person who has simply not been paying attention, and perhaps you lack the confidence that comes with experience. If that's the case, the solution is to find a tool that forces you to track exactly where your money is going, and direct it in more meaningful ways.
Getting a Real Financial Plan Up and Running
Limit your spending to necessities for now and get yourself a good budgeting tool (I recommended some in this article) to free up cash to pay down your debt. The article you mentioned explains the basics of how to get out of debt. For a little more guidance using a Weight Watchers-like approach, consider the website DebtGoal.com, which offers tools to help you understand your debt, speed your pay-down and track your progress. (It costs $15 a month after a free trial.) Payoff.com is another recent entrant into the business: It's free to users, but the site features advertising.
Because you earn a good salary, steer clear of the debt-reduction industry. It's rife with scam artists, but even the legitimate firms may push you into an unsuitable repayment plan because that's how they make money. In the meantime, you learn little about managing your own finances, and your credit score gets trashed.
Briefly, here's how "debt reduction" works: In traditional debt consolidation, you repay the full principal at reduced interest rates, with fees removed. The firm collects a monthly payment from you and distributes it to creditors. You're typically debt-free in three to five years. Debt-settlement firms, on the other hand, often tell you to stop paying your debts and pay them instead, so they can collect a lump of your cash to settle with your lenders. The bad guys charge enormous fees and disappear with the lump of cash, leaving you with even bigger debts and enormous legal headaches. (See this Federal Trade Commission bulletin for more information.)
Instead, get educated. You can find affordable or free personal finance classes through the Cooperative Extension Service, part of the Department of Agriculture. You can also take a fundamentals class for free online from the University of California, Irvine (available through the OpenCourseWare Consortium program.) Crown Financial Ministries and Dave Ramsey's Financial Peace University also offer affordable, semester-long classes on the basics, but with a Christian orientation that promotes zero debt and tithing.
Don't sell yourself short. There is a deep sense of well-being that comes with knowing you can take care of yourself, no matter what happens. Forget about the inheritances for now. Wish your father and your boss wonderful times in their final years, and if a little cash comes along, enjoy it. But don't depend on it.